🌿Your Yes Needs a Filter
Reclaiming your energy by aligning decisions with your values
When life gets busy, boundaries slip in subtle ways. A quick “sure!” becomes an accidental obligation. A “yes” to one thing turns into a “no” to rest, reflection, or the people who matter most. The truth? Your 'yes' is precious. It deserves a filter - not to keep people out, but to let alignment in.
Sign #1: You Commit Before Checking In
You RSVP, agree, or jump in - only to feel regret later.
Your yes didn’t come from your values; it came from reflex.
This misalignment can create fatigue, confusion, and resentment.
Try this: Let “I’ll get back to you” become your boundary pause. Alignment takes time, not impulse.
Sign #2: Your Yes Isn’t Rooted in Capacity
You agree because you “should,” not because you have the energy.
This is one-way road to burnout. Emotional bandwidth matters - and your yes should protect it.
Ask yourself: What’s my emotional weather today? Is this yes sustainable?
Sign #3: Your Values Feel Distant
You’re doing things that don’t feel true to you. Maybe out of habit, expectation, or guilt. Repeated disconnect can erode self-trust - and make your no feel unreachable.
Reconnect by mapping your values: Is this decision aligned with what I care about - or just what I’m avoiding?
🧭 Build Your Filter: Three Quick Prompts
Before committing, ask:
- Does this align with my values?
- Do I have emotional and physical capacity for this?
- Will saying 'yes' mean saying 'no' to something more important?
💬 Final Thought
A filtered yes is a wholehearted yes. It protects your energy, reinforces your values, and deepens trust with yourself and others.
Want help building your yes/no filter?
Join me in Kalgoorlie for The Art of Saying No! - a psychology-based workshop with practical scripts, reflective tools, and a full workbook to take home.
📍 Kalgoorlie | 🎟 Tickets available now at www.lifeonyourtermscounselling.com.au/workshops/the-art-of-saying-no
